Lets face it , Men are a closed book for the best part when it comes to openly discussing feelings , more so when it comes to our mental health, men in general like to fix things and we shut down when we cant, its something you hear daily especially in men following the loss of a child .
Daddys With Angels the leading Male loss Child loss charity that caters to but not exclusively to Male family members following the loss of a child has a current campaign running entitled “Talk to us”. Recently I spoke to Mark Cowdell Angel dad to Nyla ( click for Bio ) Who volunteers for the charity … Continue reading Talk to us campaign
The one thing that is absolute in child loss is how much special times of the year suck. Besides birthdays, father’s Day/ mother’s Day , Christmas is the one huge one that we all feel the same about , more so if you haven’t had the opportunity to have more children following a loss . … Continue reading Holidays and Grief
Sadly the above image is no joke , I really wish it was . On a recent visit to support a newly bereaved family Dan Hill ( Director at Daddys With Angels ) Was taken a back by the complete disregard for the grieving father in the house by a Health Professional . 2020 and … Continue reading Where is Dad in the Grief Pecking Order ?
“studies indicated that while men tended to have less intense and less enduring levels of negative psychological outcomes than women, they are more likely to engage in compensatory behaviours, such as increased alcohol consumption. Qualitative studies indicated that men often feel that their role is primarily as a ‘supporter’ to their female partner, and that … Continue reading Change is Needed
The 14th June 2020 marks 7 years since you were born and cruelly taken away from us 19 hours later. There is not a day that goes by that I wish I could hold you just one more time. 7 years later I still ask why me , what did I do that was so … Continue reading 7th Birthday without you
A very detailed study at the impact of men following the loss of a child,grandchild . Survey conducted and owned by Daddys With Angels . Follow link below to download
**The views expressed in here are that of my own taken from my own experiences ** So for the last few days I have been sat pondering the question “would I change anything that happened in the last 6 Years?” The short answer would be no , now that may divide opinion but its the … Continue reading Would I change the Last 6 Years?
12/05/2019 Will go down as the day I truly realised I was finally at peace with the loss of Oliver. I had a conversation with a close friend of mine who was going through the same thing and as we spoke more I realised that about a year ago I think I got to that … Continue reading Acceptance & Mental Health
25th of December a date that uses to bring so much joy. Yet here I am, teary eyed and dreading the day even though I have my rainbow to see open her gifts . There is a void in the whole day , Oliver isnt here and by all our rainbows milestones and actions we … Continue reading Xmas day struggles of an Angel Dad
As Christmas is fast approching and the pressure of celebrating Christmas is mounting, I want to take a moment to assure you that you are not alone in feeling the way you are. One thing us angel dads understand is the pressure from society into just “manning up” and getting on with it. The very … Continue reading The Holiday struggles of an Angel Dad.
Never would be the answer With this week been baby loss awareness week ,its a good week to see other people sharing their story’s and experiences. One thing this has sadly highlighted for me is how many Angel mums feel like they are frauds because they lost early on and that they did not get … Continue reading When is a loss not a loss?
The topic of this blog will be based on my experiences of having a rainbow baby. There is one thing almost guaranteed when you loose a child and that at some point someone will say something along the lines of ” Your young you can try again.”or” When are you trying … Continue reading Rainbow tears
Just like when you are in a accident and injure yourself you are left with scars , When you lose a child you are forever broken. Let me explain. When you lose a child your world stops, you lose countless years of watching your child grow up, you miss all the milestones that they would … Continue reading I am Broken, But that’s ok
I dont know if anyone will ever read this, im unsure if I actually want people too. This is just somewhere I thought I would jot down my idea’s and thoughts as an Angel Parent. Before I go any further, maybe it’s best to define what I mean when I say Angel Parent. In basic terms … Continue reading Lexi Jayne , gorgeous Angel butterfly
I remember when I found out I was pregnant, I was so shocked. I’ve always wanted to be a mum, we just did not think it would be that soon. It was the happiest moment of my life. We did a few home pregnancy tests and they came back negative so I was not hopeful. … Continue reading Oliver’s story . a Angel mams journey
On the 14th of June each year we have Oliver’s birthday, followed the next day by his angelversary and a few days later fathers day. Now for those that know me I also have a nearly 4-year-old rainbow, In the midst of a day, I should be excited about it consumed with grief, anger which … Continue reading A Tide of Celebration, Sorrow and being an Angel Daddy on Fathers Day….
There any many organisations out there that do memory boxes for hospitals for children who have sadly passed. This blog will focus on a charity called 4Louis as this is the charity that supplied Oliver’s Memory box, and my first real look into the world of child loss and support. Some of this blog will … Continue reading Memory Boxes: The first gentle hugs from strangers
There are not many words needed for this blog, This evening I came across some pictures I had forgotten about from when Oliver had died. I am going to share these below , with a few captions to explain them My one main regrets is having no picture of me and Oliver , … Continue reading Rediscovering captured moments, lost in time refreshed in memory.
4 words that cause lasting damage on men as a whole “Big Boys Don’t Cry” Let me explain a little. For generations after generations men have had those words uttered to them as they were growing up, showing any sign of emotion was met with mockery and men were made to feel weak. … Continue reading Big Boys DO Cry
There is a Quote that has been kicking about in my family for years now and its “You can’t take from a empty jar” As a man when your child dies , social convention is that you take care of your partner , make sure she is ok and support her. In doing this you … Continue reading Self Care, what not to do
Losing a child is one of the worst things that can happen, it’s not a pity party like most think, it goes against nature , no parent should ever have to bury their child. It’s not normal and it’s impossible for anyone to understand unless it happens to them . Now I can … Continue reading The Loss of a child , A dads Perspective
This is not my first blog , however it is the first one I am going to publish on here Child Loss: “in painted words and written pictures” It is a odd combination of words , some may even be sat scratching their head at the title of this blog, The thing is … Continue reading Child Loss: “in painted words and written pictures”